Last week's Friday Five

These answers may or may not make sense, and they may or may not reflect my overall feelings on the topic. It's jsut what came to mind as I sat here at this moment. (pretty much like everything in this blog)

1. How many times have you truly been in love?

Love in terms of a relationship - Three. Love of a fellow human being - Many.

2. What was/is so great about the person you love(d) the most? I really can't qualify who I loved the most - love, like any other emotion, wanes and waxes with the passing of time. In my last major relationship, though, I loved the fact that I always felt comfortable around them. I could be myself, say anything, be crazy. We shared a quirky sense of humor and laughed together a lot. Those qualities have pretty much been present in everyone I've seriously dated, though. Without them, why bother?

3. What qualities should a significant other have? You've gotta share a sense of humor - life's fucked up and you've just gotta laugh at it sometimes. Enjoy the little things in life - walking, talking, sharing laughs, food fights, etc. Put up with my occasional bitching and understand that it's not a side of me that I like to reveal to many people. Still, sometimes i gotta vent. Give me my space. I'm not a clingy person. Understand that there are lots of little things that I forget (like birthdays) but that if you ever really need me, I'll drop everything to be there for you. Be direct. I don't pick up on subtle hints well. And perhaps most importantly, be honest.

4. Have you ever broken someone's heart? Well, I don't like to think of it in those terms, but yeah, i guess. At least once. Breaking up is never fun...

5. If there was one thing you could teach people about love, what would it be? Love isn't an abstract, all-encompassing emotion. The word is too broadly applied in our language sometimes. Love, as it's typically used, is a combination of caring, friendship, lust, and excitement. It's not some mystical, out-of-reach phenomenon. A typical loving relationship is just a great friendship, where you happen to enjoy physical togetherness as well.


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