In a recent Ask metafilter post, a guy had his panties all in a bunch because he had to buy an engagement ring for his girlfriend_
How can I get past my resentment at having to buy an engagement ring?
I love my girlfriend and want to marry her, but having to buy a wedding ring upsets me. My objections are nicely summed up in this recent piece in Slate_ it's a backwards, sexist, manufactured tradition that begins a relationship that should be based on equality with something that's distinctly unequal. My girlfriend agrees with most of this but wants one anyway.
Thankfully, muddgirl came through with the perfect response:
If you're getting this resentful about the very first crappy, antiquated, sexist tradition surrounding a marriage, I can't wait until you two actually start planning the wedding!
(Love you honey!)